Recently it seems like several people have been sharing their burdens with me. For some it’s been work related, for others it’s been more personal. But regardless of the nature of the thing that has been worrying them, their reaction afterwards was the same. After sharing their burden, they all said something along the lines of, “I’m sorry to bother you with this.” That response really surprised me. All of these people are close friends of mine. I have no problem listening to their frustrations and worries. In fact, I want to hear what’s bothering them so that I, in turn, can do something to help them – even if that thing is simply empathizing and listening. I never want my friends to think that sharing their burdens is a burden to me, because it’s not.

I enjoy being caring and compassionate. And it has been proven that sharing your worries can provide relief, open your eyes to possible solutions, create connections, and help process emotions for better mental health and resilience. I know I feel so much better when I share something that has been on my mind. Even if the person can’t really do anything to fix it, just getting it out in the open helps.

Now, there is a limit. If there is a person in my life who is constantly complaining about things, I’m probably not going to want to interact with them. But when an individual is a genuine friend, and they happen to have something on their mind, then yes, I want them to share it with me. And it’s not a bother to hear it.

Perhaps part of the reason people say, “I’m sorry to bother you,” is because they think that everyone has their own struggles and that sharing might be an imposition. We live in a world that often values self-reliance and independence, which can make vulnerability feel like a weakness or a burden to others. But the truth is, none of us are meant to carry everything alone. Connection is one of the most powerful tools we have for healing and growth.

So if you ever feel hesitant to share what’s on your heart or mind, just know that it’s okay to lean on those who care about you. Real friends want to be there, and it’s in those moments of openness and honesty that our relationships deepen and strengthen. You’re not bothering anyone by being human.

And to anyone who finds themselves on the receiving end of a friend’s struggles, remember that listening is one of the greatest gifts you can offer. Sometimes, just knowing someone is there to listen without judgment can be the difference between feeling isolated and feeling supported.

In the end, we all need to share our burdens. So keep the lines of communication open, and never apologize for needing a little support now and then. Because caring for one another is what truly makes us human.